Your opportunity to win an iPad and make a full-power start to the year. Challenge #2 – Knowing Your Pain
Wow, 326 responses to Challenge #1 and counting… If you don’t know what I’m talking about, check your email inbox or click this link.
Let’s move on to Challenge #2 (Participate – Movement creates momentum).
There’s a story where I come from of a master craftsman who kept his old apprentice’s apron in the attic.
Every night he would go up to the attic and connect with the apron, as a way of remembering how far he’d come, and the road that he was still on.
In a way, I think we are all escaping from something
I mean, you don’t set out to overhaul your life if everything is perfect, right? You’re not here for the entertaining way I confuse ancient wisdom and footy coaching clichés. You are here because you want something more.
But our mistake is to hide our pain from others and from ourselves.
We pretend like everything is more or less sorted. We’re here just for a bit of spit and polish. Just to put the finishing touches on a life that is pretty much complete.
And we can’t admit that our life is on fire – that it’s coming apart at the seams and taking on water.
Maybe it’s pride. Maybe we think it’s polite to keep our suffering to ourselves.
But whatever the case, there is an opportunity missed here.
The human, in its pain response, is incredibly energised. Of course it is. You might struggle to get up off the couch, but if the house was on fire, you’d break land-speed records getting out the door.
So if we muffle our pain, we muffle our pain response – and that deadens us, makes us less energised.
So this is your simple challenge for today: Connect with your pain. Connect with your discomfort.
Give yourself two minutes (that’s all it’ going to take), and just free-form it. Don’t think about your answer. Just write.
Leave a short comment below:
- What in your life right now just isn’t working.
- What just doesn’t fit?
- What pisses you off?
- What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Go!
Ok, be aware that you are sharing this with random people on the internets, so maybe don’t go into the specifics. Don’t name names.
But spend time with the part of you that is uncomfortable. The part that wants to move – that wants to move forward.
Despite what the happy-clappy success gurus say, it is a pain that should be central to our daily drive.
So this is your challenge for today. Comment below.
And if you missed your challenge #1, here it is again. 326 people took the time to share, so the buzz is real. Check out what they’re responses were, plus add yours!
Remember, everyone who completes the Power Challenge goes into the prize draw to win at the end of the month.
Power on.
JG
P.S. – As a bonus, share this with someone who you think resonates with the pain you are pointing to. Say, “Hey, this wanker Jon asked me to do this. But I thought you might resonate with this. Is this how you would say it?” Copy and paste.
P.P.S. Still reading? Good. Now time to take two minutes and do the work. Here are the questions again. Don’t think, just write. There are no right or wrong answers.
- What in your life right now just isn’t working.
- What just doesn’t fit?
- What pisses you off?
- What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Post your answers here.
Living in a house that as a tenant, I have no control over does not fit with me. When your landlord promises to get things done but really he is a “Gunna” man, it drives me crazy.
If I could leave behind the landlord in 2019, it would certainly make 2020 a better world.
Currently not working. I would love a permanent job rather than casual work which I did last year.
What in your life right now just isn’t working. my career/job its boring & unfulfilling
I don’t like working for someone else & I,m constantly stressed taking it out on my kids which makes me hate myself more, And being in debt
What just doesn’t fit? working the rat race living in a poshy suburb working for someone else not doing my painting
What pisses you off? My boss, not being able to work from home when they said I could, worrying about $$Not making a living doing what I love renting moving not being settled being single, people not getting back to me
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? renting not working for myself woirking for someone else & them calling the shots, hurting my daughters
‘Family’ is not working, my sister (only surviving sibling) appears to be wasting her life away together with her husband and 25 year old son, delusional about everything is going to be alright without any care or effort for the future.
Happy to leave my worries about them behind in 2018.
Negativity! People that look behind rather then forward!
What’s not working – Family and marriage stresses
What doesn’t fit – Our broking business. No time to service it properly while running a full-time job.
What pisses me off – not being able to convince my wife of the need to build a decent investment portfolio.
Also, letting the stresses from above affect my health and take time from the things i enjoy
What i’d leave behind in 2019 – about 15kg
I’m a single mum of an 11yr old boy with down syndrome living with my dad, I am also a grandmother and I want to buy my own house.
What pisses me off is being on Centrelink and having to report to them every fortnight the pitance I earn, I just quit my job,because when your a carer you can no longer think straight.
Would love to leave Centrelink behind !
1 Debt
2 Working on weekends
3 Wages
4 Lack of self time
I’m living in a place that has a potential to be a beautiful home but it has been damaged by us, people in and out.. It just has been used and abused. I’ve tried many times to repair it but it just pisses me off now cause I’ve done it some many times, I lose motivation to do it again. Having a few debts that I’ve had from stupid decisions I made previously well in a toxic relationship that now I’ve got to pay off, and not having enough income to live comfortably like we use to even though it wasnt the most honest way of living. And not having any contact with my children for many years now. I’ve tried to get in contact road block and I wasnt going to be a good mother then but I sure am now.. So that pisses me right off.. And to leave all the bad memories or feelings I have about myself in 2018 and to be comfortable about my imperfections that are my perfections. Not to allow my self worth creep back in..
1. Living in a house that i have put money towards but is not under my control.
2. Pissed off that i injured my back at work and now i got to suffer financially for it while workcover pays ne next to nothing.
3. I want to travel before old age but at this rate ill never get to and that pisses me off too.
I need to disentangle from a weird financial relationship with the inlaws. I also hate how all my time seems to get gobbled up by other people and I have none for myself.
What really pisses me off is that I am still not breaking through financially and seem to be constantly struggling!
Not being able to trust the wealth creation system and the normal outcomes e.g. property prices doubling every 10 years – will a change of government tax regime impact property values such that investments with say 70% debt burden all of a sudden become a problem for banks – what happens if the brakes are released on interest ; will rent and inflation follow (probably not!) – will our share market ever provide reasonable growth; looking at our local ASX over a decade is not inspiring
Dealing with a builder that has very little care for meeting deadlines, who continuously fails at delivering what he says he will, is over 8 months late on a 6 month project and has a poor work ethic and little care or responsibility for the job.
Looking forward to getting rid of this builder in 2019 and looking forward to using another builder on a future project this year!
Work-life balance isn’t working the best for me atm. Unable to convert my vision into reality severely pisses me off.
I wish by the end of the year, I’m able to leave out all my regrets.
My diet and lifestyle isn’t working. Struggled for years trying to get congruent with the emotional attachment to food and lifestyle. Also failing to take action in certain areas.
Getting sucked in to reading the distracting comments on the FB pages related to I love real estate group that have absolutely nothing to do with the original request for info or help. Drives me insane.
I want to leave that and 26KG behind.
Yes i too am pissed off that I have dropped the ball in relation to my diet and lifestyle, i have put on lots of weight and started smoking again and look like crap… hope to turn that all around in 2019 too
Hi Genevieve. I have gradually piled on the weight since losing my ability to work or excercise (heart condition) and depression with financial situation. I have decided to go back on HERBALIFE as I felt so much better and more energy from the start. I lost- ELIMINATED -10 kg. ,migraines, back ache and p.m.s. kept it off for 20 years. If you want to join me we can keep each other accountable. Whether you get the products from me or someone else is up to you. Cheers. 0416194731 Theresia
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
– Passive Income not enough to retire on
What just doesn’t fit?
– Having to go to work to earn enough cash flow
What pisses you off?
– Other peoples opinions on my life
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
– Celebrating birthdays 🙂 … and taking others on their word … If it is to be, it’s up to me.
Hey Phil, you can leave the celebrating thing behind easily enough. Start with your own. Build gradually. If others don’t respect your views and wishes, why should you be obliged to observe theirs?
Taking others at their word – Caution. This will lead to cynicism and closed views. Better a bit of hurt and remain an open person. You must have a balance. Not easy. Good luck.
1. Getting refinance on our PPR using consultancy trust
2. Over whelming work load – as self employed I don’t have relief.
3. Pisses me off. getting sued by clients for they’re decisions they won’t take responsibility for.
3. Leave behind my fears and old way of thinking
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
What just doesn’t fit?
What pisses you off?
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Settled in my comfort zone, not putting in the action and momentum. Serious procrastination perhaps because I don’t want it badly enough!
My own attitude pisses me off, finding the strong why
Boy – have you got plenty of company!!
1. Trying to recover from previous poor property investments, I seem to be hitting walls with everything I try with no positive response.
2. My current financial position is no where near and is not even tracking towards my goal.
3. Being a slave to my job and selling my precious time for money with no end in sight.
4. Wipe clean my outstanding mortgage debt so I can start fresh.
Working at a semi-government organisation that is still very old school with how they think. I struggle daily as they don’t care for the environment and waste resources unnecessarily.
1. My Financial situation/Debt
2. My feelings of guilt and regret just don’t fit into the place I’m trying to get to.
3. I’m pissed off that I’m
Trapped in this debt and it feels like a prison sentence as it will take me another 2 years to get rid of the debt.
4. I will leave behind all the regret/guilty feelings I can’t change. Manage the debt and move on with my passions.
1. Not earning enough from my business and working too hard for too little.
2. Poor time management by me on some projects
3. Bad politicians making terrible choices for the environment and only chasing big business
4. Negative fear based mind set
At this point in my life, my work/life balance just isn’t where I want it to be. I am still young, but have been very career/work focused in my early years which has impacted friendships & relationships, at a time when I should be networking and nurturing relationships. This pisses me off because I should be spending more time reconnecting with old friends and creating new ones while I am young and can afford to sacrifice some time at home.
I am in a fortunate position that I do love my job, but my work’s industry does not correlate with my ‘outside of work’ passion, being Real Estate. I see it as a bit of ‘lost time’ as I am not learning new things that intertwine with the industry that I know I will eventually retire on – feel like I am not getting the maximum benefits of my time spent at a job. My life is currently on the wrong end of the 80/20 rule – 80% time spent at work on someone else’s targets, 20% of my time working out how to get out of the rat race. In 2019, I would like to flip this rule around to be spending more time focusing on my own longer term retirement goals rather than spending my time in a job for someone else to realise theirs.
1.Income online.
2.Being broke.
3.B.S.’ing gurus.
4Poverty.
1. Banks – harder to get finance
2. Local councils ragging the chain for simple approvals
3. Having to currently work for survival money
4. Facebook distractions – sucks valuable productive time and negative comments
Having been severely damaged in late nov 2017 I’ve been on survival mode ever since…6 months of waiting for the insurance company to get on board has impacted my already strained relationship to the point of is breaking up…having…now…a fixed income of barely 60% of my pay has put a hold on going away anywhere…the feeling of being trapped in a house which takes over 50% of my income while I have to continually wait for my ex to put her share into this house…council wont help on a shred fence that’s falling apart…but I’m having to maintain the nature strip at the bottom of the stairs otherwise people just cross over onto my driveway
So i want a better deal with my home…
I want to leave all my pain behind…but that’s not likely to happen as i have nerve damage
Lose another 15 + kgs
& start being more positive about life
1. Trying to decide which door to go through for my next stage in life!!! Do I just get another job, as family would want, or do I do what I want and do coaching and side hustles. I seem to be hitting walls with everything I try with no positive response.
2. My current financial position with high assets but no cash due to debt levels on assets.
3. Being a slave to others instead of doing what I want.
4. Clear up my lack of direction and reduce debt.
As a self-employed business person, I have lumpy cashflow. I get a quarter of good consistent cashflow and then a couple of months of inconsistent income. This drags me back from the advances I have made in the good months. And the second thing is that the busier I become, the less time I have for my own fitness. Get busy, less time for exercise over and above the daily walk with the dog. That is why I am looking to create passive cashflow through property. I would like 2019 to have a consistent cashflow and time to get all my exercise in.
1. Can’t seem to make progress toward financial freedom, keep taking one step froward two steps back – and seemingly through circumstances I don’t control.
2. Having to rely on selling my labour to survive. It means I spend my days in places I don’t want to be doing things I don’t want to do to benefit people I don’t even know.
3. My seemingly unlimited capacity to make poor choices, letting my desire to accelerate progress override my instinctive caution.
4. The inertia which strikes me from time-to-time, holding me back from getting done the things I know I should be doing.
1. Low income
2. Chasing clients
3. Shallow stuff is easily sold by others, while people are not willing to pay for real values
4. “Not enough-ness”: My English is not good enough, my expertise is not enough, etc…
Hi Elizabeth,
I know your frustration about English language. I arrived from Europe in 1961 speaking other languages but not English. I sat a goal to learn every day 10 new words. I was not concerned about how to pronounce the words as knowing the meaning of them. In few years I went to college and after having two degrees had very productive life where I helped thousands of people to have healthier and happier lives. And now at the age of 78 I retired as I have fulfilled my duties to this world.
I think its not the lack of English that keeps you from achieving your goals rather lack of self -esteem. Dig deeper and find out what is stopping you for fulfilling your dreams
.All the best
Miriam
Had major surgery 2 years ago and have recovered as well as doctors say I will but it is not well enough for me. Have double vision and cannot drive.
This does not fit in with life easily. Public transport takes time and cannot always get me where I need to be. Seeing two of everything is not fun (unless its dollar notes).
What pisses me off is that to go out I have to wear a ‘pirate patch’ which affects depth of field and I often trip up gutters, stairs etc. resulting in constant bruises.
Don’t get me wrong there are good points e.g. can’t drive the kids anywhere, can’t go grocery shopping as can’t carry all the bags home.
What would I leave behind in 2019. I would leave behind all negative issues in relation to my eye. I would vision it working perfectly and find effective ways to move forwards.
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
What just doesn’t fit?
What pisses you off?
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Working 70+ hrs a week
Enough family time
Bad drivers on the road piss me off
I would leave behind the Mortgage in 2019 if I could.
As a Self-retire person, not by my own means (have a work injury that the employer didn’t consider it was caused by them), there is a number of areas that give you “Bloody hell”. At the same time watching your income reduced.
1: Poor workmanship by the new tradesmen, who are like handymen can’t finish the job? As an old school tradesman, they don’t understand it should be corrected at there cost.
2: Been told that can’t be done, even it black & white
3: Local Council or Fairtrade Inspector that not qualified on what they are required to inspect
4: Order failing to turn up when they agreed to a delivery time & date.
Can’t refinance a loan because Apra.
Put on wait
Not enough time.
Forget about a bad tenant
1. Financial freedom
2. Bad Habbits
3. Rat race
4. Debt
in 2019 I am set to move from distraction to focus.
I began the learning journey with the ILRE community in 2018 and now I am set to do my first deal. I am leaving behind an unproductively conservative mindset that has held me back.
I so hate negativity.
I have also created a snapshot of possible commitments for 2019 so I can say no to the ones that suck up my time and yes to those that produce possibility.
Wishing you all a great 2019 with much productivity and great health.
Financial strategies put in place not returning the expected returns.
Passive income strategies need to be compensated by active income streams, so have to work more.
The ever changing goal posts for the baby boomers investment strategies to earn sufficient income to retire on.
Procrastinating on my financial decisions expecting things would take a turn for the better
Mine and the wife’s work life balance is just not working right now
My financial position just doesn’t fit
It pisses me off that my wife and I are slaves to our job just in order to just live comfortably
I would leave my job behind in 2019 if I could
1. My ability to take action
2. The excuses
3. Ive done all the study, but not trusting myself to make the first deal.
4. My self doubt
My attempts to fix my financial millstone are not working – only holding the monster at bay and letting the debts pile up.
My income doesn’t fit with my debt. Centrelink thinks I am rich with properties I can’t rent or sell, therefore only a Part pension now that I can’t work due to a heart condition. Part pension is difficult to live on. Depression no help either.
Pissed off when I get tearful in confrontations or discussions with the bank, making me feel weak and not in co trol.
Leave all the debts paid off and my ppr freehold. . Maybe even make some friends and discover some of this great land by caravan.
I need to learn to say no, and not try and squeeze so many different things in. as I might get it done, but I don’t complete the task at the level I wold like to. I need to give others more responsibility.
1. No matter how much I read, I never seem to pick the right strategy.
2. Why are we not wealthier from the advice I read, Poor advise is why my wife and I can’t afford to retire.
3. Why, because there is too much conflicting advice from so called experts.
4. Listening to politicians internal and external fighting, the promises they make and the way they are destroying our way of life from bad policy making. Taxes are a good example. Still worse is that they speak on behalf of Australians, when they haven’t a clue as to what we think and stand for.
Thanks. Great questions
1. Time restraints
2. Peoples unreasonable attitudes
3. Closed minds
4. Leave behind in 2019 old baggage.
All the niggling little details of things that have to get done and happen before the really more important things can get done and happen.
1. Career
2. Excuses about why I should wait to change
3. Lack of direction
4. Social media distractions
Having to start again from behind the eight ball at the age of 70 thanks to a business partner going feral.
Feeling like I have the ability to attract abundance into my life, but consistently finding that the financial abundance seems to keep appearing and then disappearing again. I’m super frustrated with not being able to keep the ball rolling with the finances, which then throws me back into a fear/lack based mentality. Linked to this is the feeling of having great ideas but then not being able to follow through and create great content or implement great ideas which is related to a perception of a lack of time and the excuse of being a full time mum. It’s like bouncing from wanting to be successful as a mum and wanting to create massive wealth, with the feeling of helplessness and like I can’t currently do both
To be honest, I thought I would have achieved financial and lifestyle freedom by now. I have built a sizeable property portfolio over the past 10+ years and followed the supposed blueprint to freedom, but clearly something is amiss. Have I entrusted others too much in helping me reach my financial goal? When is the SE Queensland upswing coming now that Sydney and Melbourne have had their run? I have been impatiently waiting for history to repeat itself. I have been too reliant on the “market” to help me attain my goal. Now that I know more, I am no longer sold on the “hope and pray” and “never sell a property” strategies. I remind myself now that money is a tool and so is a property. It is time to take back the reins. It is time to unwind some of those deals where the promise of growth is yet to eventuate.
1. Relationship has broken down, Worst financial position of my whole life..
2. Doing the same things and expecting different results
3. No clear vision of how to get out of my current ‘situation’ and utilize my skills and abilities
4. Leave my debt, negative attitudes and bad knees behind.
Failure or time and opportunities lost. Bad decisions made and unfortunate results when initially the prospects looked very sound.
Failure = Pain
Spinning my wheels; treading water; all learning / no action. At 65yo, can’t afford to wait any longer
Being held back by Nay sayers who haven’t taken the time to understand what you are trying to achieve and how you can achieve it
1. My business, which I have worked in for 10 years, I don’t have the passion for the particular industry anymore.
2. Allowing myself to continue working without passion.
3. The fact that everytime I think of a solution, it doesnt fit within the family dynamic.
4. I would like to look back at the end of 2019 so see I have resolved the above!
Stay on top of all paperwork in regards to my property journey
Make time to better understand xero
Make a bigger effort with wife and kids
Dysfunctional family relationships that I can’t fix or do anything about. I’d do pretty much anything to leave all that behind in the past and move on in 2019.
Things are taking longer to come to fruition than I’d planned, and it would be great to be able to move forward at a faster pace. Some of the situations I’m in right now don’t fit where I want to go, so I need to complete them and leave them behind. And what pisses me off is people who don’t answer the questions in the right order!
1. Lack of time and money to do what I want
2. Life work balance
3. Time vampires
4. Working for someone else
1. Early Mornings
2. Mortgage Jail – the struggle is real
3. Wages
4. Job
1. Working a dead-end job that I have to travel in just to keep afloat. No, the travel is no glamourous. I’d rather do it for pleasure.
2. At my age, my debt level;
3. Incompetent and dishonest pollies (on both sides)
4. Debt!
What isn’t working is my vision on where I can get to in 5 years – dont have self belief I can achieve
What doesn’t fit is my mindset on what i can achieve
What pisses me off is that I still have outside people and voices telling me what i can and can’t do and I still listen to them
What would I leave behind in 2019 – negative thoughts and negative people in my life
1 – Finising the build on my new self-built house/stuff just takes so long to do and the mistakes in quality,ie using a commercial airless sprayer
2 – Running a contracting business anđ building a house
3 – Comb-over Trump
4 – The never ending BS on social media
Knowing that I have so many good ideas, passion and drive that I can’t seem to tap into and make results from. I know I have it in me, but finding and time restraints make motivation challenging.
Debt, growing demands of children, uncertainties, juggling between work life balance to name few..
Something in my life that isn’t working right now: The TV remote, so we sold the TV.
What just doesn’t fit: My Jeans from last year, I’ve been working out!
What pisses me off: Unprofessionalism and laziness.
What have I left behind in 2019: Procrastination.
1. Lack of serviceability to move forward.
2. So many of my clothes after Christmas!
3. One of the owners in a unit complex I have. Always sending bullying emails to other owners to do what she wants.
4. Leave behind owning that unit, sales are slow in this area.
1. Focusing on my studying and talking to my mentor.
2. Debt cycle am in due to above and no holidays.
3. Government interference in business. Tradies not turning up
4. Out of debt and lose some kilo’s..
What in your life right now just isn’t working. – Financial freedom
What just doesn’t fit? – The amount of time, effort and money I put into my businesses and investments versus the returns
What pisses you off? – Unethical, lazy business partners
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? – Uncertainty about my future
My ambition and actions. Not all the actions I take necessarily are making progress towards my goal. I feel there is an invisible wall there.
My skill set and what I am trying to do.
My current working environment which I want get out ASAP.
Fear. Fear of rejections, fear of failure.
What is in your life now just doesn’t fit
Not moving forward ,indevelopment of me .
What just doesn’t fit
My job into my future plans
What pisses you off
Stupid people,,giving advise
What would I leave behind in 2019
That’s easy ,,my job
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
What just doesn’t fit?
What pisses you off?
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could
Finances; no real control
My goals verses actual achievements
My own inability to take responsibility in certain areas
The knowledge/acceptance that it is never who you are, but what you do/don’t do which makes the difference. I hope to put far more on the “having done” list in 2019. That already would make me happy. Just to DO instead of wishing/should do/can’t do/don’t know how to/ etc.
1. Focus, when I have too many things on the go.
2 the creative brain and the practical brain are fighting it out for domination and my skull just isn’t that big.
3 people not taking responsibility for thier actions, lacking accountability and integrity.
4 I would love to leave behind a trail of success. That each thing laboured over this year , pays off.
I am annoyed with myself as l still spend time thinking about my ex and cant understand why he has done what he has done to his children and myself. I need to not spend anytime thinking about it as it only makes me sad and have negative emotions.
I allso get annoyed with myself when l cant manage my time well and are not able to be fair sharing my time between my kids.
The three at home need to contribute more to helping me with looking after the home and cleaning after them selves but l do not put clear boundaries in which let’s them get away with leaving it to me.
I need to be clear on what l have to do each day and allow time for myself too.
I also need to believe in myself more.
What in your life right now just isn’t working?
Finding it difficult moving forward with my investment portfolio due to banking regulations regarding lending.
What just doesn’t fit?
My current job in my future plans
What pisses you off?
I find massive change in my life hard and sometimes scary and this sometimes holds me back from moving forward
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? My fears .
1. Lack of organisation & procrastination
2. Trading time for a wage
3. This could be a really long list but to keep it short – The lack of urgency for wealth creation & retirement planning
4. Fear & doubt
Lack of direction and decisiveness. The feeling that nothing is ever good enough.
You people may think that you’re having a bad time with all your petty things you think are not working for you.
I say to myself when I get to the point where I’m thinking about how hard life is I stop and think about the people in this world that wake up in the morning have to get water for the day which is 5km away and the water is shit as well being shot at by some people who don’t have the same believes as them.
Think about it we have nothing to complain about
Time. Not enough time with loved ones, too much time working at things I don’t love. Giving time to others for money. I want to be free of swapping time for money. I want all of my time to be my own to give and to spend as I choose. I want more time for my daughter and my husband, for self-care, fitness and reflection for personal growth.
By the end of 2019 I will no longer be swapping time for money, I will leave behind a need for employment.
I would like to say goodbye to working physically demanding jobs for little money just so that I can keep myself and my children off the streets.
I think that covers everything and I am not being petty when my families safety is more important than someone else’s Malcolm
My work life balance is way out of whack.
I work too many hours in my business and don’t have time to do the things I enjoy.
I want to leave behind the work harder mentality and move toward working smarter.
The PAIN ?
Have been on yoyo diet for 25 years. Yes ‼️ I am actually sick of myself doing that.
Sometimes I swap the pain for procrastination. Work that out ?
If I can leave something behind in 2019 , that would be the 10kg of my fat ‼️ and also the fear of imperfection.
Hi Foong. I lost 10kg on Herbalife and kept it off for 20 years. Contact me if you want some help. Theresia
Our jobs just aren’t working. I mean they pay well enough, but are so stressful, exhausting, both physically and mentally, that there seems to be no time or energy left to fit in anything else. This sure pisses me off because we want to get started with investing and redirect our lives. Our plan is to quit our jobs later in the year, and leave that all behind. There’s more toour plan than that but I’ll probably get to reveal that later in the challenge. ?
Need to leave niggling self donuts behind in 2019 and embrace all that l am. Need to buy a seriously uncomfortable couch so l don’t spend so much time on it 😉
1) in spite of good equity in 2 properties (both positively geared) im struggling to get a finance for my next project. i am forced to sell one.
2)banks rules. one property in family trust and other used to be commercial but now residential-difficult to get a finance. equity over $500K!
3) it pisses me off that im not able to do another project without selling one property. its seems im not moving forward. i want to create a nice passive income before i retire to finally enjoy my life. other thing-im such a people pleaser! it frustrates the hell out of me that i do what suits other people more than what i want!
4)my work! definitely i won’t miss it!
I would leave behind my excellent procrastination skills! I need to talk less and do more. I live my life the way our society has taught us to live ie go to work, sell your life to a job you’re not very excited about, get paid, pay your bills but don’t really get ahead. For me right now I am in a place where I feel like “somethings got to give!” What pisses me off? My inaction! Only I have the power to make a change, I just need to do it!
1. Trying to pay off my mortgage.
2.getting the house in my name once paid off.
3.working less more productive over the hours
4.taking my little boy on a holiday however his mother is very me me me.
5.settle my dads estate
6.declutter mylife.
7.be in a very loving and supportive relationship where we work as a team.
My job- the expectation to churn out tasks in record time and with 100% accuracy. The lack of training provided to give us the tools to meet those expectations and the push for us to not only meet ridiculous expectations but go above and beyond by finding and creating improvements – that will eventually cost us our jobs. Grrr!
Being a smoker is what I’d like to get rid of in 2019. I feel so stupid-paying ridiculous amounts of money that would be better spent ANYWHERE else and knowing I’m paying this premium amount of money towards putting myself in a grave way earlier than I’d want. Dumb, dumb, dumb. This is what really pisses me off, yet I haven’t managed to stop. Double Grrr!
Sometimes it’s getting caught up in what I don’t have, what’s to be done or achieved, rather than smelling the flowers and being grateful enough for the incredible things I do have. I have a tendency to froth out on the adventure, bite off too much, chew harder than is realistically sustainable, get it done but burn out in the process. I’ve been a bit of a stubborn learner and crashed pretty hard physically, mentally, emotionally. So 2019 probably needs to be about reflection, repair, renewal.. just need to figure out how to fund that!
The speed a deal is completed is out of my control, thus pisses me off.
Also trying to find a deal that suits both us and our JV is slow.
Sorting a deal for our super that is positively geared is a learning curve.
To have these 3 deals up and running by mid 2019 would be outstanding.
What in your life right now just isn’t working?
– The daily Groundhog Day grind
What just doesn’t fit?
– My path in life currently is not my life’s path that I see in my minds eye
What pisses you off?
– being financially frozen with no other income sources other than employment
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
– Negative people, attitudes.
Although my job is a great job by most people’s standards it is not what really lights me up. Working for a large corporate makes me feel just like another number and I often feel like I just don’t fit. I have the goal to work my way out of this coporate job in order to pursue my passion from property. My lack of focus frustrates me sometimes as I could hit my goal faster if I could maintain this focus. My lack of sustained focus is something that I want to leave behind in 2019.
1)-My aching self due to lack of gym.
– Location
2) being single
3) my laziness when it comes to health
4) the problems I’ve had w my back
I have lived with chronic pain for 11 years.. The last 4 has put me out of work…
So ive learnt that the mind is your best pain medication.
So this year im dealing with the pain of relying on lawyers and insurance companies to finalise my claim.
Ive come to terms of dealing with the pain of having to sell my assets like my Sports car, my jetski and another vehicle, all of which I worked hard to earn., just to support my family…
I have come to terms of the fear I have of moving forward… I am confident in my abitities, but fear letting others down…
So I am pissed off with myself and have decided 2019 is my year of achieving goals and taking my life back
Relationship Struggles,
No Support from my wife.
She hates money & doesn’t understand why I’m doing this.
Fighting every day to keep the above 3 things out of my Positive Focus.
Pushing forward with drive, but slowly.
End Goal always in Mind.
Being on income protection due to couple of siezures.
Not being registered as a builder.
Family not trying to make it on their own always feeding off the Mum and dad ATM.
15 kg beer belly.
Will be gone by the time I’m 50 in October
Get off my comfy couch and do something with my life 🙂
TRUST in the process. TRUST in me. I need to believe it is possible for me to have unlimited wealth.
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
Tangible, material benefits for effort. I feel like I’m putting in, but not getting the results I want. (Hmmm. Am I kidding myself about the effort? Probably.)
What just doesn’t fit?
My persona. I’m putting on a bit of a front.
What pisses you off?
My current boss. Period.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My PAYG job and my excuses. (Excuses hold you back)
Jon, I have to ask you, as much as you say we should connect with our pain, isn’t this emphasising the negative? Is this really the way forward?
My job
My primary relationship is a little sad with it competing and regularly falling low on the list of priorities against kids, work etc
1. Work/life balance, right now its all work and no life….
2. Im working a job well below what i am capable of
3. Living in a shady neighbourhood on a regular size block with no big shed to pursue my hobbies and interests in. A big country block is the goal for this year.
4. The bitcoin losses….
1. start to get a cashflow happening
2. stop worrying about money or the lack of it
3. try and help my daughter find a purpose in life
4. to help my other daughter navigate the materialistic world and survive
5. to get a place of our own
6. sort myself out financially, emotionally, mentally, physically
7. sort out my relationship
to name a few
1-the amount of time and effort I need to put into running my business social media platforms.
2-the time required to run a business v the perceived ‘freedom’ of having your own business. That said, I’d rather be working on creating my own success than someone else’s.
3-we (as in society, globally) are consuming the earth to death.
4-overwhelm, lack of focus, too easily distracted, procrastination – be gone!
What in your life right now just isn’t working?:
Trying to get the house tidy as my diabetes combined with my wife’s medication reduce my energy levels and make timing work activities difficult.
What just doesn’t fit?
It not a matter of things not fitting as having the resources to accomplish my goals. The old adage ‘You have to spend money to make money’ and my finances are very limited.
What pisses you off?:
Bullies, lack of finances, demonstrated experience required by people who would not know what demonstrated experience was if it bit them, drivers that treat car parks as their own personal speedway, as an engineer poor design.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Lack of finances and energy as these are the biggest hindrances to me being able to achieve my dreams and goals, lack of employment, the lack of customers to my ebay store misterminit4305-7.
1. Working – too tired – no time for anything else /cycle
2. My exhausting jobs to just keep cash coming in
3. Having to rent out part of my house to a tenant
4. Leave behind struggle/doing everything myself/no fun
2018 was a challenging year for effective time management. I required more discipline and motivation. This was not a good fit for me and the accomplishments I desire. I was too ready to accept failure and procrastinate. This pissed me right off. 2019 is the year that all changes. Too many late nights, poor sleep and no exercise is a formula that would seldom work for anyone. I leave all that behind and replace it with adherence to self imposed routine. I’ve finally visited a physio after 3 years of putting it off and am already reaping the rewards. I make more time for my trading whilst also being more focused on raising my children. My negativity is replaced with positive self talk. I connect with the things that cause me discontent and choose to make a change and live the life I want and deserve.
My Pain Points are:
1. Working for someone else and exchanging my time for money to pay the bills.
2. Not being able to do what I want when I want
3, Missing out on time with my kids
4. Getting my online business running so that it generates enough cash to replace my income
Working for the man is not working for me. Trading hours for dollars to provide for my family does not fit. The income is good, but the Jobs chews up to much of my time. Time I should be spending with my young children and beautiful wife. I miss out on to much because I have to work and that pisses me off.
This year I am going to take charge of my life, make changes to get the life I have wanted for so long and leave behind my current job.
1. What in your life right now just isn’t working.
Bad back pain & headaches and depression preventing me from doing any significant paid work. This results in not having enough money to do the Real Estate-Knowledge Course (Feb 2019 or ever) maybe.
2. What just doesn’t fit?
After paying all bills (food, rent, car ins, petrol, electricity & living expenses) there is no money left for doing ‘extra things’ such as self help education courses. Things have to be sacrificed for survival.
3. What pisses you off?
Being at the mercy of the Land Lord while facing rent increases & not having any control of this or other price increases for living expenses with a limited income.
4. What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
If I could leave behind my bad back pain, health problems & depression this would help me be more energized to help myself prosper in the future.
I’m on a journey & im where I am & setting up for my best future -so life is working fine
I’ve got rid of all the stuff that don’t fit ?
what pisses me off is – being in debt to the tax man because I thought mt accountant had it under control, my bad for not staying on top of it ?
what to leave behind in 2019 – Bad debt! !?
very slow progress to secure income from positive cash flow properties
contacts with skilled advisors elusive
keen to progress but have not found the opportunity
procrastination
What in your life right now just isn’t working?
– no sense of stability in all aspects of my life
What just doesn’t fit?
– lack of balance in my life
What pisses you off?
– not enough time to work on balancing out my life
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
– Negativity, bad decisions, spending money on things that don’t fulfill me.
Lack of Opportunities due to lack of income.
*I want to see my family in Europe more often
*I want to be able to go to nice restaurants and not worry about the cost
*I want to see my friends more often.
*I want to have a personal trainer so as to get my body in better shape
*I want to have my own business controlled so that I can can plan more enjoyment time
*I want to stop reacting negatively to things my boyfriend says – I want to stop and choose my response more responsibility
Finances
Laziness
Not making most out of life
Not making positive moves
1. Realationship
2. Realationship
3. The rat race
4. The rat race
1- Effective Communication
2- Continuing to do things that provide no enjoyment or worth.
3- Not having thoughts or feelings acknowledged.
4- Not concerning myself with others BS.
1. My living situation
2. All the STUFF in the house (literally doesn’t fit!).
3. Others who can’t/won’t cull their junk and who keep bringing MORE STUFF in to add to the mess!
4. The lethargy & inaction that tends to overtake me as a result of not being able to change 2 & 3 above because it’s not my stuff to clear out (or I would).
What in your life right now just isn’t working?
Getting on top of my mental health
What just doesn’t fit?
Allowing to be pushed in directions I’m not passionate about for my life
What pisses you off?
The fact I continue to sit on the sidelines when it come to my finances and future
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My mental health issues 100%
Everything was on track until a few years ago. Two property investments went wrong and now I’m still trying to recover. Trusted one of the Knowledge Source partners who let me down badly. And because of what happened , my wife panics and stresses every time I try do do something to improve the situation. Major downturn in my industry so finding work is difficult – less than half expected work in last 6 years.
Persuading my twin 4 year olds to go to bed “on time”, so that I can enjoy some “free” time with mum before I’m too tired and ratty to think straight :o~
What’s not working is our landlord, despite all efforts over a 3 month period to get him to provide exhaust ducting to the outside of the house for our cook top range, it has not been done.
What doesn’t fit is my savings are disappearing faster than planned. I’m currently renovating a house in Ballarat which is not guaranteed to bring about a sizeable enough profit when sold in March/April and in the meantime I have no other job.
What pisses me off is being played by the landlord who has no interest in our health and safety that my partner and I and our kids are breathing in cooking fumes.
In 2019 I’ve decided to leave behind the anger, frustration and victim mentality with the landlord and take action myself to get quotes to have the exhaust ducted outside.through the ceiling then put the bill to the landlord and if necessary take him to court to have it reimbursed.
Being so easily distracted from my path.
Not sticking to my plan
Loading myself with too much and not achieving/finishing any of it
Putting my needs last, so not having time to attend to myself
This was a tough one. Easy to name things and create stories, but was hard to find the feelings underneath. My story was abusive relationship, divorce, left all the assets, now 60+ starting again, new much younger husband, big dreams and goals.
My killer is anger. I’ve worked out that it stems from a need to be right (some people have to win, for others it’s peace at any cost etc), I just have to be right, and if I think you’re in the wrong, look out. I don’t suffer fools gladly, and I don’t queue well, zero patience. My road rage is legendary, My anger doesn’t work for me, it doesn’t fit, so much triggers it, and I definitely want to leave it behind in 2019.
My life flows much better when I consciously expect the best. I have made a practice of writing 5 things I’m grateful for as I start my day, and this helps. My husband has infinite patience – perhaps he got my share? I’m learning to let things just flow over me and away instead of confronting them, but it’s not an easy habit to acquire. It’s a good thing I’m still a work in progress, 2019 is my year.
trading my time for too little money and for a job/challenge that doesn’t interest me much. I don’t think I will grow much more with it.
Otherwise, the rest is good. Must keep the positive circle spinning and do something about it!
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
I’m looking a bit too much at what is and not enough at what I want….at least in the realm of finances.
What just doesn’t fit?
I feel my outer circumstances just don’t fit with who I am inside!
What pisses you off?
When people try to make me responsible for their happiness.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
The responsibilities that belong to others but because of my relationship with them I feel obliged to help.
-Time Management!
-Being distracted so easily and not concentrating on one thing at a time! Try to take on too much and then end up fluffing around with so many different options. Then time management suffers!
-Laziness and mess!!
-Sitting on the side lines thinking about it all too much and just getting on with it! Complete small goals moving forward and not end up with too much on my plate!!
Opportunities lost.
Held on to “safe” for too long and regret that there may not be enough time to achieve the financial freedom we dream of and provide an adequate nest egg for the children.
1. Cashflow just isn’t working right now. Buying investment properties with a hope of financial freedom, only to be drained.
2. My commitment to my country doesn’t fit with signing my family up for mediocre lifestyle.
3. Seeing unscrupulous people making a more than comfortable living pisses me off.
4. I could leave behind Property managers who resemble comment number 3.
• What in your life right now just isn’t working.
My finances are really out of order as I am so stretched to the max with my first project.
My relationships are scant and my love life is non existent- I must be changing but I am lonely
My health is fairly precarious due to my unsatisfactory lifestyle.
• What just doesn’t fit?
My lifestyle is not what I believe in but is a result of and includes my work
• What pisses you off?
When I procrastinate instead of getting things finished
That my current passive income is being eroded by the downturn in current
rental situation in WA.
People who don’t listen when another person is speaking.
People who parrot the media with no knowledge of the subject as though they have
Really considered the subject.
• What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My work. My debt.
• What in your life right now just isn’t working.
Me. I’m what’s not working. I don’t seem to be able to get out of my own way.
• What just doesn’t fit?
I don’t fit. I feel like a fraud in this community.
• What pisses you off?
My spouse being very ‘glass half empty’ & saying that he trusts in my abilities, but behaves the opposite.
• What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My lack of confidence
I have fallen financially and cannot get back tio muy prior motivation. I was intrinsically motivated my whole life until about 10 years ago. I cannot get that back no matter how hard I try . Goal setting does not work for me and never has. MY spark has gone
1) My Health
2) My Cloths
3) Knowing l can fix 1 & 2 and doing nothing about it!
4) Negative feeling and thoughts
1. Being at cross roads and not knowing which path to take.
2. My career
3. Being a people pleaser and not standing up for myself.
4. Leaving my job.
Just need to work on my work/life balance a little bit. Love my work but it is very full on and would like to twig it to allow a bit of ‘me’ time (but not too much!!).
My day job is getting in the way of accelerating my property portfolio. The portfolio is still building and I have achieved quite a lot in the past 12 months, but I would get there even quicker without my day job (provided I had enough cash flow of course). It no longer fits and I would leave it behind in 2019 if I could. Perhaps 2020…
whats not working are the systems and processes.
I am soooo pissed off that after non smoking and feeling comfortable being in meetings and one to ones I have stared again….so this is to be left behind as well for 2019
Lack of stock as when i have the stock it sells fast but there is only a limited supply
1. Working so hard for money
2. Shift work.
3. Not quite having freedom to live my own lifestyle.
4. My current job. Out of mining.
Health Fitness and movement , pain in legs and back..
Working too long each day , unable; to stop and break away.
No social or fun experiences.
Inaction and Frustration.
Leave behind feeling alone.this year..
What in your life right now just isn’t working? My work/life balance
What just doesn’t fit? My job
What pisses you off? My positive attitude (or lack thereof)
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? Negativity, self doubt
What really annoys me is the constant battle to push runny poo up a steep hill on a hot day. You think to yourself, I just need to do ‘this’ to get ‘there, then something else breaks or stuffs up and then you have to leave what you are working on to see it all fall apart. Always doing everything right and it still doesn’t work out, that really pisses me off.
What in your life right now just isn’t working. Work
•What just doesn’t fit? Work – no fulfilment
•What pisses you off? Not hitting my goals
•What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? Hitting my goals
What in your life right now just isn’t working – Some of my relationships
What just doesn’t fit? – My indecisiveness
What pisses you off? – Indifference
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? – Guilt and fear of stepping out of my comfort zone.
1. Passive income stream – Retirement income needs a substantial boost.
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2. My job and I – little alignment
3. Recruiters attitude to over 50s – passive discrimination
4. Employment based income – how? By generating decent cash flow from commercial property investment.
What in your life right now just isn’t working
Not have enough in superannuation to be able to fund retirement
•What just doesn’t fit?
Some value alignment in relationships
•What pisses you off?
People not taking the care and the importance of the environment seriously
•What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Toxic relationships – work and personal
What in my life right now just isn’t working?
Diet, Income and Wealth. Oh and relationships as a result of…
What just doesn’t fit?
Being in a lethargic funk, with a millionaires mindset. Almost, except for the funk part.
What pisses you off?
That I have all the resources around me that I need. More than when I first started out and achieved so much. My air conditioning thermostat keeps shutting off when i try to go to the next level.
What would you leave behind in 2019?
My in congruent self!
1. Not be able to get finance ready to start anything.
2. Values and goals don’t fit each other in relationship.
3. In this circle in life that cat get out.
4. All the negativity from others.
1. My relationship with a non-communicative, non-affectionate man.
2. This same man who can sit at a table with 4 other people and not engage once, that is, not utter one word!!!
3. His lack of commitment to talk about how we could change this – he prefers to sit in front of the TV or on his iPad.
4. This relationship and the heartache and hurt it had caused.
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1. In matured age and working environment offers constantly carrying heavy items up and down stairs.
Physically work harder but not smarter.
2. Results are tiring, stress related and poor health.
3. Financial stress also due to less hours of work sometimes.
4. No hobbies, boredom and bad decisions in life.
I can actually say I have nothing to whine about…. all of my current challenges are blessings in disguise. I know this for sure from my own and the experiences of others in my life… it’s not denial… it’s about seeing challenges as opportunities to learn.
I wouldn’t leave anything behind… Some serious cr#!! went down in my world in 2018 but it’s turned my world around for the better…. I’m still working through it all but excited about where it will lead me in 2019!
My day job isn’t what I need it to be because I’m looking after the needs of two eldly parents and a father in law. So the job I have is geared towards have time to attend to there needs.
I’m in a situation that makes it hard to commit to anything until my parental problems have stabilised.
What pisses me off is having a abusive, negative, drunk and counter productive brother in law that undoes nothing, and criticizes everything.
What I”d love to leave behind is my tax bill but that isn’t going to happen.
I don’t have balance. I am working hard in my business but the harder I work the more it costs and I still make the same amount of money. I than have less time for me, my partner, my dogs and my family. My body is saying stop but financially I cant because the payments don’t. I can’t get organised, I am just spinning around with all these things to do but when it comes time to do them I’m exhausted from thinking about them.
I am not enthused to get up in the morning. My heart is saying travel and take photographs and explore the world but my head says come back down here and get your back side working,
I get pissed off most about knowing how I can change, feeling some serious pain because of it but still listening to fear and staying where its safe instead. So knowing I have the abilities but not taking action.
In 2019 I would leave behind fear and the belief that we have time!
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
Getting ahead on a regular wage
What just doesn’t fit?
My work ethic and history dostent fit my bank account
What pisses you off?
Working so hard for many years to only start again this year with $-19.00 in my account haha
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Toxic negativit people
1, Taxes, Debt and financial stress
2, Time management to study more
3, Broken promises
4, Self awareness
What isn’t working? When I keep doubting myself.
What just doesn’t fit? Jumping around from one idea to the next.
What pisses you off? The inability to see potential deals.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? All my self-made obstacles.
1 Relationships
2 Financials
3 Negative people
4 Worries about all of the above and to move forward as a happier and more positive person with all my relationships repaired and financials being abundant.
Lack of direction, passion & relationship
PROCRASTINATION in getting healthy, wealthy & wise.
Lack of respect,
Negativity, anger & trusting too much
Do not have enough time with the family, I don’t like depends for only one source of income, and be stuck with only four weeks of holidays. I feel terrible when I miss another presentation of my daughter at the school.
What isn’t working? Finding somewhere affordable to live with my dogs and a caravan. Hoping to soon
What just doesn’t fit? Trying to find some work that actually fits my passion and can pay me enough to sustain a very moderate lifestyle.
What pisses you off? People sho suck away my time with their need for a loan or needing me to do something for them in the name of “friendship”
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? 2 Governments that do shit all for the people and suck the life out of the country with their treason, their narrow-minded policies based on a UN charter. Oh that pisses me off as well
What pisses me off is ……………..
1. The injustice that’s going on in the world.
2. The useless politicians who have sold out our country and the good hardworking people to save their own hide, now on the gravy train to implement the NWO..
3. News Media not being fully honest with the people, who I call fake news!
4. Agenda 21..
5. GMO (Frankenstein)) foods slowly making people sick.
6. Struggling to keep ends meet.
7. What worries me most is, I see no way out!
1 motivation,procrastination,trust issues.
2 lots of qualifications, limited belief that after having a baby who is about to start kindy, wanting to be self sufficient and lucrative in every way for my daughter and 1
3 it pisses me to.Not back myself.
4 i would leave behind doubt and choose to be spontaneous, courageous and know my worth
And in doing so create money and receive money that multiples expodently ,with this money and mindset i will start ticking off boxes and travelling to broaden my mind and my child.
I will show others how to be there best version , owning a well-being centre,and properties
What in my life just isn’t working? My ability to quit smoking and drinking alcohol. In my work, many co workers smoke and drink and this influences me a lot.
What just doesn’t fit? Not sure about this one.
What pisses me off? My lack of self control.
What would I leave behind in 2019? Nothing…it’s only just begun…so many goals to achieve this year. Quit smoking and drinking alcohol and get the body of my dreams…Yeeyaa!!!!
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
I’m not comfortable with the level of income I’m making. I work odd hours, my feet ache with pain after 10-hour shifts. I’m sitting at my laptop weekend after weekend using all my spare time chasing the dream.
What just doesn’t fit?
Still living with my parents. Oh god the thought. But I can’t move out, Rent is higher then I pay now. Yes I do pay to live with my parents.
What pisses you off?
It really pisses me off when you pay for a course to learn something that’s designed to help you understand how to escape the rat race only to find you have to dip deeper and spend more money chasing it. The faster you chase it the further it seems to be.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My job!. It’s a pissy cheap ass job only good enough to pay my bills.
30 second well rehearsed sound bites delivered for short term wins rather than long term nation building
Ungrateful Australians who don’t realise and leverage the jackpot they have already won: living in Australia.
In idiotic slip of concentration that ended up with a broken foot at the beginning of a hiking holiday.
• employment, I want a more satisfying role.
• stupid / thoughtless people, I’m convinced 30-50% of people have some kind of disorder. The thing is stupid people don’t even know they are stupid.
• people who BS about their status.
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
I need to build my physical strength and belief in myself to be able to tackle tasks independently without relying on other for help.
What just doesn’t fit? My finances, harmonious balance between money in, money out and lifestyle wishes. Constant frustration and focus on debt management.
What pisses you off? People who are just unkind when they can choose otherwise.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? Being overly critical and questioning of my worthiness.
1. Sub leasing a room which is no longer required.
2. Current employment
3. Plastic
4. Debt
It is time that I retire as the main team leader or action person at the coal face, in my business.
Options include hiring additional staff, or also retiring as CEO by leasing or selling the business.
It would be wise to sharpen the saw, to work smarter rather than harder..
Adjustment is required to cover evolving changes in our industry and maximise ongoing viability of the business..
Selling would fund a new entrepreneur style of business but selling would be emotionally difficult to implement.
What in your life right now just isn’t working?
The lack of exercise and crappy food, and constantly paying out all my money on reducing debt
What just doesn’t fit?
My spending patterns, I am trying to get off the credit card wagon
What pisses you off?
That I can’t find the energy or motivation to get up early and get to the gym
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
My poor behaviours in relation to food, exercise and money
1. Contemplating my university careers and job prospects.
2. That I’m different from other people, and that people don’t really get me, let alone accept me for who I really am.
Perhaps I feel I’m too quiet or too talkative. Or too serious or too much of a funster. Or my face or body isn’t traditionally attractive.
3. People who always find a way to let others down and who are skilled at criticizing others.
4. Moving on can be a pretty hard thing to do. However, what has happened has happened and unfortunately, none of us has the power to change the past. Luckily, what we do have the power over is how we decide to move on. Your past does not define you and what you have done does not label who you are. Take your past mistakes and failures, whether in career, business or relationships, as a lesson and an opportunity to do better in the next year – Let it go!
Right now retirement is not happening.
I walked off a family farm many years ago and had to start again and after many years of hard work had a number of investment properties but on reaching retirement age the mining industry went into serious decline.
Can’t complain at least I managed to pay the properties off so I wasn’t facing issues with the bank.
But I hd to sell our home to make sure I was in a secure place.
So I am starting again looking to do a PPR reno and flip to improve my position while I wait for the investment properties to pick up.
What doesn’t work is my job. It’s just doesn’t work anymore. And also doesn’t fit in a way in the lifestyle I am trying to achieve. Working on the new lifestyle thing still not there yet. I am working twice as hard but no progress.
What piss me off is when something you need to do or achieve and it is in someone else’s hands. So with things up to me I do them ASAP. But when others specially in construction industry promise a time frame and they always have excuses.
If I can leave my job by the end of 2019 ( by choice) would be the best.
Leave behind all the wasted time on face book – cant get rid of it completely because there is some really good content. But time spent in other places would be more productive.
Stop using doing property deals as excuses to not finish my property apprenticeship course!!!
Job
Job
Job
Job
Not getting enough sleep and rest. No work/life balance.
What isn’t working in my life right now? Creating good habits is harder than I thought.
What doesn’t fit? Trying to do things perfectly which leads to inaction because Its overwhelming
What pisses me off? What is happening to the environment & my indecision to do something about it.
In 2019 I’m leaving behind inaction & no sitting on the fence.
• What in your life right now just isn’t working?
EVERYTHING… oh… wait a minute… It’s NOT everything. It’s just Me! I’m what’s not working… planing too much – doing too little… doubting myself
• What just doesn’t fit?
I don’t fit. My mind set doesn’t fit… and some of my cloths don’t fit anymore
• What pisses you off?
Lack of drive… Laziness… excuses I make to NOT do what I can and should do
• What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Negative feeling and thoughts. Lack of confidence! Laziness!
Being worried about what other people say and think is probably my biggest restraining factor.
Airing on the side of cautiousness so you cant be seen to fail.
I’m pissed off that I’m 36 years old this year and I haven’t even begun to achieve what I want to achieve. I’m leaving bad habits behind in 2019: this year I will be working REALLY HARD to set myself up financially, eradicate procrastination and get on top of the overwhelming list of things to do so that I can do the things that really matter to me! I’m am so over being stuck on this treadmill and running and running and getting nowhere!!!!!
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
– Not being able to find a new deal that comes to fruition
What just doesn’t fit?
– Being in business and still having to struggle financially sometimes.
What pisses you off?
– That things usually take more time than desired.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
– The “Can´t afforditis” syndrome. I want to be able to travel overseas more often to see family, I also want a better house to live in.
my finances, health and ballooning waist line
My people pleasing personality and saying “No” to people just so I can prioritize my study and my future. It’s uncomfortable and necessary but may damage friendships along the way as I change and become less available for others.
Being dyslexic and finding it slow and hard to read and learn and keep up with the emails and blogs but still have time for study.
The boring, stressful and severely restricted life that I currently lead due to lack of funds at present. I want to be in control of my life and have an exciting life filled with freedom, choices and more energy to enjoy it
My internal dialogue
My career is pissing me off, however working hard to change this reinventing myself
Taking so longbto do stuff on the Internet
Leave the frustrations of technical issues behind in 2019
1.Going in a circle and trading time for money.
2. Having everything available to me (ie information/knowledge) but not using it.
3. Lack of motivation
4. Procrastination
My motivation was/is two things. 1) Not to get ‘old’ and be saying to myself … “I wish I’d had a go.” 2) To have worked all my life and NOT to be financially free. We have achieved both ( thus far) through property investing. If there is a ‘pain’ in this country it’s our high cost of ‘government’ ( taxes /fees/charges/levies/permits etc ) that mostly doesn’t ‘do’ anything …just provides useless employment for the masses.
No real path or direction that fits my life with my kids and provides a good income for our huge blended family. Bored of just parenting.
fantastic exercise ; thank you
What in your life right now just isn’t working. – Lack of ………. money, life, fitness
What just doesn’t fit? Me : – An injury for the last 4 years has had me treading water.. My appearance : – Clothes, Hair, mobility
What pisses you off? Treading water : Not knowing my niche – being disconnected from it, feeling of wasting time
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Lack of ………….., fight to survive each week, injury, Treading water – start swimming in the deep end safely and with surety.
Challenge 2:
Q1- What isn’t working? – Money – Not earning an income for myself, so I can do things I want eg personal development, fitness etc and not feel guilty and to increase my feelings of self worth
Q2_ What just doesn’t fit? – Going back to working a 9-5 job. Been there, there done that. Want to do something creative and collaborate with amazing people.
Q3: What pisses you off? – My lack of follow thru – I research, research, research and plan but never follow through with actually doing anything
Q4: What would you leave behing in 2019? – Self doubt
Apathetic Clients; Interactive devices that take up to much time;My general apathy to getting myself motivated to do finances , exercise, social commitments.
My energy levels, or lack of energy peeves me. There is so much I would like to do physically, mentally, and spiritually and don’t have the energy to do these things. Financially I would like to grow my wealth through real estate to give me more choices in life and my diminished energy levels interfere in this goal.
I would like to fix this issue and most certainly leave it behind early in 2019.
What in your life right now just isn’t working. My active income driver, underachieving year after year
What just doesn’t fit? Me and strenuous workloads
What pisses you off? Loan criteria harbouring my plans
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? Work that just doesn’t pay enough, The heat, the scarcity mindsets, the juggle of funds to stay afloat, the worry and angst. Bring on 2019 in a big way!
Despite taking affirmative action and control in so many areas of my life, external influences out of my control continue to impact negatively
The above is not fitting in with the life that I am trying to create
What pisses me off is what I cannot control
I would like to leave social media and crap news broadcasts behind in 2019
1. The bank threatening to take legal action because our Interest Only loan expired (they didn’t even realise it had expired at first), which is now our fault because we haven’t been able to sell the house, yet we’re maintaining the payments……..
2. As above! And the bullshit I hear from real estate agents……and the fact that they don’t listen……..
3. The fact that I don’t feel we’ve done anything wrong, yet we now have the constant worry that they’ll take legal action, which will affect our future borrowing capacity
4. The bank and the house – if only we could get a contract that would finalise………
The goal to get rid of excess weight.
Clothes….Ha Ha!
Not much angers me….I enjoy my life…
A whole heap of clutter that I have been working on….forever….
My relationship is up and down because I want things to stabilise after years of change and financial hardship and she wants to alter our new house too quickly and spend spend spend again.
I’ve let myself go a bit and it doesn’t feel good and it pisses me off too!
I’ve been under stress workwise money wise and time wise.
We have moved to Tasmania in an idyllic location. In 2019 I will be back in control. I have to be very organised and time wise because I travel back to NSW one week a month for work.
What pisses me off is the little voice in my head that says I can’t do it. I’d like to leave it behind
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
My career choices
What just doesn’t fit?
Constantly find myself in roles that don’t play to my strengths
What pisses you off?
Training colleagues who then leap-frog me to become my manager (it happens!)
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
The bad career choices. After completing more uni study last year, this year I plan to start a new job in a field where I can excel.
I feel like every opportunity leads to nothing, they’re full of big promises but they turn out to be empty.
Being forced (by my health) to make changes to my lifestyle.
My child’s backchatting.
My failures
1- realising I have a lot that works and only seeing what’s not working
2- being a negative nelly
3- dreaming big and not meeting them quickly
4- my fat arse
Not having a purpose (other than being a mother to 3 kids) I used to be so productive, if I wanted to get something done I would get it done – even the impossible, now I barely get the basics done.
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
I need to declutter my time and space. My to do list is too long and my home is full of useless stuff.
What just doesn’t fit?
There’s not enough time to do everything.
What pisses you off?
When I wash my spoon and accidentally spray water on my work trousers.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
Renting. It’s time to own my ppr.
1.cashflow
2.Stereotypical attitudes
3.Banks
4.Banks
1. Having to rely on other people/businesses for my income
2. Having to have boarders to help pay my mortgage
3. Knowing that i have the mindset & potential to change 1 & 2, but no direction
4. My debt & whats is holding me back from changing 1 2 3
-Right now I have no income and are battling Centrelink for a little amount and needing to prove details about my dad that I care 24/7 who has been in Australia for 70 years.
-Time, I cant seem to fit the time for things in my days that I need to do.
-I get pissed off at government bureaucracy whereby I need to pay for a document from a government department to scan & send to a government department.
-Excess weight and credit card debt.
I just can’t seem to keep myself accountable to myself.
The Fact that my Husband is still working at age 70
This is supposed to be our Time
The Drought
All the negative things that have happened in 2019
Wow! This one really was where I initially chose not to partake in your challenges John – in public anyway.
Somehow the fast closing curtains to your challenges encouraged a change of heart. No, not for the IPad either, rather out of respect to you upon hearing you only had 100 persons follow though the challenge to date!
I’ll just keep it subtle……
My workplace…….. it’s become so toxic and soul destroying. Don’t get me wrong….. I love the actual work – providing much needed help to people in need. Alot of effort at times but overcoming challenges and successfully helping people helps fuel my energy!!…….
Only a real shame when the bottom dollar is always being squeezed, Worker’s constantly hard pressed and their autonomy literally stripped – we all may as well be robots…..
It’s very destructive in so many ways… and sadly any real financial and or true QOL investment appears all but lost!
So…. I have a low risk excellent potential profit share business investment proposition if your interested?
1. My closet- its too full
2. Some of the clothes are ill-fitting and need to be lovingly donated
3. No space for the new when I’m holding on to some of the old
4. Leave behind taking the donation bag into the car and dropping it off
Thanks John- just made Wonderful donations to the charity shop- ( and just filled another bag!) woo hoo
My problem at the minute is I’m not experiencing the pain and therefore lacking the motivation to get uncomfortable again. Having recently replaced our income through property life has become very comfortable. The problem is its hard to get uncomfortable again. Whilst we felt the pain of working for others and killing ourselves to start a business and grow a property portfolio we were so driven and felt like we had nothing to lose. Now that we have got there I am too scared to risk it all and lacking the motivation to put it on the line.
Work Life Balance or the lack of it isn’t working in my life at the moment. What just doesn’t fit? Being available and fully present for my kids & partner whilst working 9-5. I’d say unempathetic and self centered individuals tend to make me feel sad about the world we live in sometimes, but I do feel pissed off at my kids but perhaps more so at myself upon reflection, I am in touch with my feelings but don’t tend to get emotional especially about things outside of my control. I see events and things as passing energy and that helps with managing and processing my feelings. I can certainly leave behind any need or feelings of financial insecurity for 2019.
I am trying to explore other areas of making passive income but am usually too tired at the end of the day when the daytime job sucks the life out of you.
I know I am procrastinating but need to get into a better mindset to be more productive.
I feel I am underpaid in my current position however I am nearing the end of my working life and should just feel happy I am still employed.
Like to leave behind my conservative procrastinating self.
I am juggling too many things and living in a state of many things being half done for too long. I enjoy so many things in life that I am easily distracted – not so much because I am avoiding things but because there are too many things I enjoy and life is simply not long enough, so I am constantly trying to squeeze too many things into it. In short, I need to finish certain tasks/projects off before taking more on. It is the downside of having a creative mind. If I finished more off before taking more on then more things would ‘fit’. It pisses me off that I my unfinished jobs leave me with a sense of dissatisfaction when they all hold potential to be successful on completion. Not prioritizing completion is what I would leave behind in 2019.
I need to work on my indecisiveness if I am to make serious changes. It is the source of allot of the above, pain through confusion, pissed off by wanting to make a call but procrastinating. I know I do it and I still seem to sit in the middle of making a call and doing nothing. It’s mainly on little things too as opposed to bigger decisions which can be worse because I am making more ‘smaller’ decisions than bigger ones. Anyway, I’m going to put an end to it and get free from it!
The thought of having to work so hard I will not enjoy being with my wife and young son growing up…the thought of that happening pisses me off as I have control of my future actions so it also motivates me
• What in your life right now just isn’t working.
Declining health of family members
• What just doesn’t fit?
Getting enough sleep in the weekdays
• What pisses you off?
Not being able to reach the career/financial goals that most of my contemporaries have
• What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could?
The addiction of a monthly salary
Working a 9-5 just doesn’t agree with me and never works with me as well as the promises people yield that just don’t come true.
I want to be servicing not selling as selling is what I do anyway . It pisses me off that I have to juggle many jobs to do my dream in playing music and procrastination and fear of instability is a major factor in all of this. I earn decent rewards right now just wish I could do it with my passion . I want to pursue the dream .
I would leave all the procrastination , insecurities and fear of not doing what I love behind in 2019 if I really could.
WE’VE JUST KICKED THE OLD LIFE – HUGE BUT OH SO GOOD!
1. EVERYTHING WASN’T WORKING
We’ve just come out of a 6 year health journey where my incredible fit, surf strong hubby nearly lost his life in an overseas an accident, had heart op, spinal op then got cancer nearly killed us – IT WAS TIME FOR CHANGE.
2. 9-5 DAILY SLOG – hubby trying to still be superman and keep us all afloat despite the pain. WE NEEDED CHANGE
3. GOVERNMENT DEPARTMENTS WHO HAVE LOST TOUCH WITH REALITY- Despite our journey we’ve chosen to do life well, there’s not a lot of incentive to do the right thing but we choose to anyway.
4. DEFINITELY REGRET – I’ve learnt that regret holds you captive. Leave behind the past – it may take a while but it will release you into a better future. xx
Hope NZ is good to you ❤️
Time and money are not working well right now both flowing away from me quickly.
What pisses me off is people who think they can judge me. They don’t fit in my life.
I’m staying away from those people in 2019. ?
time for exercise
My shorts
Rude inconsiderate people
20lbs
What in your life right now just isn’t working- My decision whether to stay in SA or move to VIC
What just doesn’t fit? I doesn’t like SA as much as VIC
What pisses you off? rude SA drivers
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could? Move to VIC
My pains – Too much debt, working too long hours, people taking advantage of me, having great ideas to break free but I’m too gutlessto follow through.
My lack of traction in certain areas of my life. 2019 is the year of positive change and looking at problems through different glasses to bring forward different and effective solutions.
1. Some relationships – negativity
2. Some relationships – some people have insane inability to see the bigger picture
3. some relationships – being ‘stuck’ – .not thinking of self and having to consider others first
4. Some relationships
1 my diet
2 the unhealthy take away food I eat and feed my family
3 the fact that i hate cooking
4 my diet and fitness
Renting
Paying of someone else property instead of my own
Not be able have my own home
Renting
Working 5 days a week isn’t working for me right now. I feel like I have no time to do the things that give me energy and I feel stuck. Completing my studies for my future career change isn’t fitting in my life which is my priority. This pisses me off. I would like to leave behind working in a job I’m not interested in.
At the moment my diet is terrible. I’m putting kilos on and not sure why I self sabotage myself after losing 30kg. I have put 10kg back on .im pissed off with myself. I feel so good when I’m at the weight I should be. I will leave behind my bad eating habits and create new healthy ones.
What in your life right now just isn’t working.
My organisation and time management skills are terrible.
What just doesn’t fit?
Work and family life balance.
What pisses you off?
Poor money management.
Broken Sleep.
What would you leave behind in 2019 if you could
Alcohol and procrastination.
I would leave behind my health issues which, since I gave up smoking, seem to have increased instead of decreased due to increase in weight.
1. My schedule, Daily time management
2. Fitting my ambition into 24 hours a day, 1 of which was given only 2 months to live
3. Property Spruikers who have far less knowledge and talent than me,
I have sold over $1 Billion Dollars worth of real estate in my 30+ years in the industry.
4. I would like to leave behind, the Regret and shame that I feel for not being financially
independent after so many years of teaching other people how to achieve the same.
It was all perfect until 2 of my family of 4 were struck down with Cancer illness
1 Debt
2 Debt
3 Debt
4 Debt – mortgages and credit cards
1. The poor return on our investment..no where near what we were told
2. Trying to live without enough money
3. Our daughters toxic, nartisistic ex trying to steal everything from her which has led to a very expensive court case.
4. Suspicious and cautious nature to most people because of #3 above. To get back to appreciating people for what they are.
Living payday to payday and not having the flexibility of being able to have time off.
1. Getting the most important things done.
2. Poor forms of R&R – dissipating energy
3. Seeing people live below their purpose – stressed, distracted or bored
4. Taking too few risks
1/ marriage
2/ my job
3/ husbands attitude; anger, martyrdom,
4/ my job
1. Marriage
2. Cannot fit myself into this world
3. Cannot live life the way I would like to live
4. Health issues and unhappiness
1. Work
2. Going to work just to pay for someone to take care of my bub when l can do it myself
3. Work- takes my time from what I love
4. Work
I’m so scared of failing that I procrastinate on a massive scale. Have “shiny object” syndrome. Intellectually i know how to go about it, but I self-sabotage all the time. Want to leave behind the damaging self-talk that perpetuates all this. Pissed at myself. Want to stop disappointing myself and be proud of myself and achieve something.
Im just tired most of the time.. fatigued and worried about my health .. worry is defo something id leave behind .. and poverty, lack conciousness.. its a virus .. just overall not happy with life.. relationships not working, no purpose, ive got some goals ofcourse but mostly not that driven to reach them .. always some obstacles that make me feel disappointed ?