No B.S Friday: We’re all craving a bit of tenderness and care.
I was chatting to one of my gym buddies the other day about what tunes he’s listening to.
He said his latest favourite is a track by Tanerelle – Good Good.
He described it as the sexiest thing he’s ever heard.
I had a listen on his headphones. It was good. It’s a pretty amazing track.
“She does have an incredible voice,” I said.
“But it’s more than just that. It’s what she’s saying:
No babe I got it come here let me rub your feet
No babe I got it do you want something to eat
I know you tired it's been one hell of a week
And everything you need is on me
Imma make you feel good…
“You think it’s sexy when women make you sandwiches?”
“It’s not just that. It’s the intention. It’s the validation of how hard I’ve worked all week. It’s the offer to ‘wash off the week’ and make me feel good. That’s just so… ‘yummy’. I just want to melt into it.
I feel like I’m busting a gut all week and then when I get home it’s nothing but chores and kids bedtimes and sorting out the bills.
I know it’s what I signed up for, but every now and then I just wished someone thanked me for it. I just wished someone just would just take my hand and lead me off and ‘make me feel gooooood’. Know what I’m saying?
“I hear ya. Modern life is a grind. Does your wife… you know… make you sandwiches?”
“Ha. She does her best you know. But she’s got her own grind to deal with. She has her own job, and the kids and her mother. Most days her plate’s too full already to try and fit some sandwiches on there.”
Poor bloke. I think he’s probably stuck in the rut that 90% of Aussies are stuck in.
I know I’ve said it before, but the whole relating story becomes a lot easier when it’s backed up with substantial wealth.
I’ve been married a long time now. And I’m feeling like I fall more and more in love with Connie every day.
But I know a lot of that comes down to the wealth we’ve been able to create. That wealth gives us the time and space to deal with niggles before the niggles go rotten and toxic and spoil the whole relationship.
And the wealth gives us the space to take the time with each other – to really give some time and thought to the sandwiches we’re making for each other.
Really, I think a lot of great relationships collapse for nothing but a want of regular quality time.
But that’s the machine we’re living in. Quality time is hard to come by.
And so look, I could probably offer some relationship advice like, “fill your own cup first, take time for your partner and they’ll take time for you, accept that the things you want in life require you to step up and take responsibility for them.”
And that’s all true.
But seriously, the best relationship advice I can give anyone is just ‘make more money’.
It’s a shame that that’s the system we have.
But nothing opens the door to love like independent wealth.
JG.