Words are easy… but what do your actions say about you?
Tell me what you want, what you really, really want…
… but I’m probably not going to believe you.
I mean, people will say that it’s a shame that media has become dominated by sound-byte journalism, and short-form click-bait articles. They say they want, longer, in-depth, investigative, pieces – a return to hard-hitting deep-dive journalism.
But those people are the same people who consume most of their media on facebook, rarely bothering to read the articles if they get the emotional hit they need from the titles alone.
I mean, if an alien anthropologist was to observe their behaviour, they would conclude that what that person wants, what they really, really want, is an endless, indigestible stream of interesting but largely irrelevant bytes of information.
What other conclusion is there?
Or someone might say that what they want, what they really, really want, is peace in the household. They want all of their relationships to be easy, relaxed and harmonious. They want rich and meaningful connections – connections that are “real”.
But what do they spend their time doing? They watch people argue and be mean to each other for entertainment (MAFS is not what you would call “plot-driven”.) They cut friends and family out of their lives for the slightest disappointment, and then they retreat to cold and digital social platforms, sometimes giving up the warmth of intimate connections altogether.
Our alien anthropologist would be scratching their heads, but their actions would make it abundantly clear what their heart truly desires.
Now what about wealth?
Most people would say that they want to be wealthy. They want to be financially comfortable, with enough at hand to not be limited, to be able to do whatever they wanted with they’re time. They want enough to leave a legacy and to make sure that they’re loved ones are well-provided for.
And yet, they give all of their productive energy to a day-job that barely pays the bills, and holds out little prospect of creating meaningful abundance. (They don’t even enjoy it!).
And then rather than spend their free time researching investment opportunities, or investing in their own education and skills, they prefer to ‘numb-out’ with television and alcohol.
Our alien anthropologist (which I sometimes feel like myself), would have to conclude that they don’t really want to be rich. What they really, really want is to spend their days struggling along like a hamster on benzos.
Your actions don’t lie.
And this is the heart of it. Don’t tell me what you want, what you really, really want. Show me what you want. Show me with your actions.
Because this is the only place that it counts. Words are easy, and there’s a danger that we can think that giving lip-service to our dreams is the same as living our dreams.
Action is everything. It’s all that counts.
So show me what you got.