No BS: How to make success as simple as wanting

No B.S Friday: Why don’t more people get what they want?

What is your ‘king’ want?

What is it you want more than anything else?

This is an important question. We are motivated and driven towards the thing we want. The things we want are out there looking to connect with us.

I really believe that.

But despite this, people often feel like they’re missing out.

In fact, I’d probably say the most common experience on earth is a deep frustration at not getting what you want.

But I actually think people get what they really want, not what they say they want.

Big difference.

And when it comes to landing desires, I reckon the deeper want – “the King want” – always wins.

The way I see it, people are mostly just a complex kaleidoscope of conflicting wants. For example, I want six pack abs, but I also want to drink a kiddie pool’s worth of wine and go out for kebabs afterwards.

My wants are in conflict.

And sometimes we might say we want something, but deeper down, we actually want something else.

For example, I have a friend. She can be a little bit of a Negative Nancy but she has the awareness to recognise that, and the way it stunts some of her relationships.

And she says that she wants to be more positive and out-going.

But as I said to her, I think the reality is a little different. In her case I think she’s afraid of being vulnerable, so she keeps everything very close to her chest. She’s afraid to step into that uncensored space where things can be exciting and you can get excited about someone else’s project.

And so in this case, she gets exactly what she wants. Throwing out wet blankets of negativity means that she never has to emotionally invest in the conversation. She’s got nothing at stake.

She’s safe and she’s got exactly what she wants.

So to get to that level of manifestation that I’ve enjoyed at times in my life, and I’ve seen other successful people enjoy, you need to make your want your number 1 want – your King want.

You’ve got to want six pack abs more than the greasy joy of kebabs.

You’ve got to want the vulnerable joy of positivity more than the safety of negativity.

You’ve got to place all your minor wants in service to your King want.

This is hard work. It involves unpacking from the dark attic of your mind all those hidden wants you didn’t realise you were carrying about.

But if you can do that, then success can become as simple as wanting.

JG.