We all end up in a funk sometimes. This is how I find my way back.
Some one was asking me the other day about how to bust out of a funk.
Yes I know. But the truth is, I get funky too. Really funky.
I know it must sound like I’ve got my shiz sorted – that most of my days are spent dancing in an endless parade of outrageous abundance.
And look, that is true some of the time. I am regularly giddy with gratitude, and that does mean that I’m living a pretty unique life (although I think that says more about how boring and painful we’ve managed to make ordinary life than it does about me).
So yes, my life is pretty sweet.
But even then, I find myself in a funk pretty regularly.
There are some days where I wake up and just can’t be arsed getting out of bed. There are some days where it’s like I develop a nauseous allergic reaction to computer screens. There are some days where I’ve just got to cancel every meeting because if I don’t, I’ll wind up mandatory training on respectful management techniques again.
It happens to all of us.
And I really don’t think there’s anything we can do about it. It’s just the flow of things. All things have their seasons and cycles – your energy and motivation included.
I do think we run into trouble if we try to fight it – if we try to force our emotional Richter scale into an artificially narrow band.
All we end up doing is putting a muffler on everything. The lows aren’t as low, but the highs aren’t as high either.
So the first thing I’d say if someone asked me how they could bust out of a funk is, “are you sure you need to?”
Maybe your funk is just about wintering your energies – letting your fields lie fallow so they’re ready for the spring ahead. Maybe you are right where you need to be.
So that’s the first question to ask yourself.
That said, sometimes funks become self-reinforcing. Your energies stagnate, and your depressive thoughts start cycling.
You’re a black dog chasing its tail.
If that’s the case, a lot of people will say come back to your goals and re-motivate yourself. Focus on the bigger picture. Reconnect with whatever it is that ignites your spirit.
I don’t think this is wrong. It’s good advice in general. But if you’re caught in the quicksand of funkiness, then it’s probably too late for that.
You’re going to be like, “meh, what’s the point?”
If you’re at this stage of things, I’d say forget motivational posters and all that – forget trying to use your head at all.
Get back into your body. At this stage, you should only have one goal – getting your energy up.
Don’t think about the future. Don’t worry about where things are going. Don’t strategize. Just get the energy in your body flowing again.
Do whatever works for you. If it’s bushwalking, it’s bushwalking. If it’s yoga, it’s yoga. If it’s Brazilian Jujitsu, it’s that. Just drop every other agenda and get back into whatever it is that gets your energy moving again.
Even if you’re hating life the whole way – even if you’re walking through the bush saying, “Look at these stupid trees with their stupid leaves. And go suck a fart, bees.”
Don’t try and drag your mind out of a funk. Don’t get angry at yourself. Just let it all play out, and as your body becomes more energised, it will naturally start to pull the mind out of its hole.
So that’s my strategy for busting out of a funk. Close the door on the mind and let it bitch and moan to its heart’s content. Then just give the body some love. Get the energy flowing. Get back to that place where you feel energised and alive.
Without fail, when the body steps into its power, the mind will follow.
It really is that simple.